Mulling over a new job offer - Should you go or should you stay ?

Having gone to the trouble of looking around and getting a new job, waiting for your bonus and then resigning, your current firm tries to buy you back. Should you go or should you stay ?

It takes a lot for an employee to go through the process of finding another job and resigning. It can be a time-consuming and long drawn out affair. Staff rarely leave just because a so-called headhunter calls up and promises them the earth. In fact, there's usually a 'push' factor which makes the employee keen to move on - it could be pay, lack of promotion prospects, feeling undervalued or hating your boss. And it could simply be that it's just time for a change.

So, you get on your bike, dry-clean your best suit or skirt, put on your best smile and do the job interview rounds. You meet lots of great people, who all seem to have really great jobs. Even your future boss appears to be a decent sort. And the money's really good too - especially as you haven't had a pay rise for years.

But when you finally hand in your notice, all Hell breaks loose. Your current employer is all over you like a rash. All of a sudden you are a valued employee - you are offered a big pay rise to stay, and there are even promises that your firm will look at making your job more challenging. So you stay.

The following week you're back in the same rut - you're doing the same job, even sitting in the same seat. And the boss is back to ignoring you. Only you're getting paid more for it. You give it your best shot for a couple of months, however, and then you go back to the dry cleaners.

The good news is, when you hit the job circuit this time, your base is higher and you are able to screw your new employer for a lot more dosh. But, being a little more desperate than you were when you first started looking, the job you eventually take is not as good as the first one you originally turned down.

And your employer has lost too. Throughout the whole process, which has now taken several months, you just checked out. When you were originally looking for a job, you were distracted at work. During the buyback, you lacked focus. After you agreed to stay, you soon became demotivated. And then you started to look for a new job again. How's that help anyone ?

So, the moral is - if someone resigns, it's usually in everyone's interest to let them go. People and organisations rarely change, so it's probably best to move on if you get the chance.

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